002. Leave yourself out of the conversation -You risk alienating your partner if you’re regularly interrupting their conversation with comments like ‘that’s exactly what I went through.’
This is a bit of a personal bugbear of mine, not just in relationships but in conversations generally. It really causes a rift if people constantly switch the conversations back to their own personal experiences. I do try and constantly work on my listening skills - it's a much better approach to just listen and try and understand things from their perspective.
This is definitely one that I could work on - I am a bit naughty at being on my phone when we're watching a film, having the laptop out and tapping away at blog posts or thinking about the day I had at work. I have a friend who recently told me that she always puts her phone on airplane mode when it's date night (or even when she's out with friends) as the best thing you can do for a person is give them your undivided attention.
I totally agree with this. I think that having your own independence, hobbies and friends really is the foundation to any great relationship. When Tom and I spend time apart I always look forward to seeing him so much more and we focus on spending quality time together.
I haven't thought about this before but I think this is a positive outlook to have on a relationship. Sometimes things can feel bleak and difficult, or big changes can drive a wedge between you, but if you work through them you can come out of the other side and things can grow and flourish again (cheesy but true).
What are your tips for staying close to your partner?