6 February 2014

Lighting candles and finding calm

I can't deny that the last couple of weeks have been a little tough at times.  There just seems to be so much 'going on' at the moment, in all areas of my life.  I've been caught in a vicious circle of getting myself overtired through being so busy, subsequently having several days where I can't help but flop into bed as soon as I get home from work, watching the to-do list get bigger and bigger and then having bursts of busyness and anxiety about how much there always seems to do until I get myself tired and rundown again.  I realise that this sounds really whinge-y, but I wholeheartedly accept that this cycle is entirely my doing.  I wrote a blog post for High Tea Cast about busyness where I wrote "The truth is, the cold, hard, mean old truth, is that busyness is a choice.  All of the things on my plate are things I have selected from the buffet and piled on in some kind of greedy binge of over-commitment."

I'm conscious that when I do have a spare moment lately I'm not spending it as wisely as I could be.  As I said, there is a whole lot of crawling into bed at 8pm and sleeping my evenings away.  Conversely there is a lot of sorting emails, checking work emails, organising errands and ticking things off the list that could probably wait a few days. What I really want is to use my free time to improve my ability to deal with the busy times.  More sleep is helpful but I long to create some real 'me time' and to make myself feel calmer, be kinder to myself and help myself re-energise a little.

I've been reading a lot about Tao, mindfulness, meditation and spirituality in an attempt to help me stress less, stop me worrying about the future and generally be happier in my day to day life.  On the occasions recently when I've curled up with one of these books, practised the meditation before bed or even just given myself an hour or so to read another (fiction) book, I've definitely felt more relaxed.  I've also been doing yoga videos and other things to try and improve my overall health.  One thing that has definitely been making me feel happier lately is my wonderful new Neom candle.  I was sent the Invigorate Travel Candle (£15*) which is scented with grapefruit, bergamot and lime and just smells heavenly.  It reminds me of being at a spa, it smells so fresh and zesty.  The scent is said to 'promote positive thoughts and a strengthened spirit', which rather sounds like the perfect accompaniment to curling up and reading about meditation and finding peace. I'm now eyeing up the larger version of this candle as I'll be sad when it burns out, it's definitely bought a touch of calm to my evenings.  I think I'd definitely like to try Relax, Restore and Tranquillity too, they sound like scents I am in need of right now!

Inspirational books Neom travel candle Neom travel candle

Creating calm and appreciating those little happy little moments is definitely high on my agenda right now. I've been enjoying soothing mugs of hot chocolate topped with marshmallows, and Sunday breakfasts catching up on magazine reading.

Marshmallow hot chocolate Egg and potato rosti

What have been your moments of happiness and calm lately? Although I might be working some of Saturday I am also looking forward to a weekend of catching up on blog reading, taking some long baths, drinking camomile tea and reading (with my Invigorate candle flickering away...).  What do you have planned?

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  1. I could do with a bit of relaxtion and calm right about now. I'm off to run a bath and burn my new NEOM candle for the first time. <3

    Tara x

  2. Fab post, what you wrote in the first paragraph I can completely relate to! I'm the queen of procrastination and I know I should spend my time more wisely but I don't. Like you said it's a vicious cycle, I find making myself daily lists to complete helps and I actually feel more productive :-)

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  3. Off to the Smoke for Mercedes Benz work event. Making the most of it with dinner at Jamie's Fifteen on Saturday before train home to not so sunny Lancashire. Got my relaxation CD on my tablet for the journey! Sometimes get a bit anxious in these situations meeting lots of new people. I'm confident with people I know, need to channel that energy tomorrow!

  4. There's nothing better than relaxing with a lovely scented candle. I hope you get some decent R&R this weekend - sounds like you need it! I will be babysitting my baby nephew Saturday, but also hoping to get a bit of raw chocolate making in as I am all out! xx

  5. I know what you mean about busyness...sometimes we just need to take a minute to time out. I find I'm coming home late from work...just to do more work! It's not healthy and last night just lighting candles and reading a few blogs before bed really settled me down. xxx

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  6. I get into these vicious cycles too. I usually feel most inspired when I'm meant to be going to bed but tell myself it's time to sleep then the next day I waste hours on the internet. I get crazy stressed about lack of work and therefore lack of money and often feel like I'm not going anywhere in life but the stresses and frustrations of this don't help and I should learn to use them as motivation or at the least just ignore them and get on with it. I hope you manage to get out of your current funk, you've definitely got the right attitude toward helping yourself so I'm sure you're be back to your happy, productive self in no time!

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  7. Agreed. Always necessary to relax. I also drink camomile before bed. It's a nice habit. Now I need to read Tao.
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  8. I've been trying to do exactly the same - taking time out to reflect and do things that help your wellbeing. Candles are always a must for me as they just seem to relax me that little bit more. I bet the Neom ones are just divine!


  9. I am trying hard to drown less in the busyness. I feel awful for it but have just cancelled an evening's plans this evening because I need the time to myself. I'm getting all stressy about the fact I have no spare time. This week I've packed away my TV and have been all the more productive for it. I don't even watch TV properly but had foudn myself getting into the habit of switching it on and sitting in front of it rather than doing anything else. I've foudn time for sewing for the last few evenings instead, which has been great.

  10. Fab post! I need something like meditation to help me make better use of my time during my hectic & stressful life! This sounds great!
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    Kelly x


    Kelly x

  11. The only downtime I have is at the gym and watching wwe, but that's a whole different ballgame!

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