It's put occasional tension on Tom and I's relationship because I've had to accept that he doesn't like doing the things I like to do, and I can't always recreate those lost opportunities with him, and so we both miss out on things. For example, as much as I'd love him to, he hates running and doesn't want to go running with me. He doesn't like exercise classes or going to the gym, and though he tries to be accomodating and will come now and then, he doesn't really like traipsing around clothes shops with me. He doesn't want to try karate, or watch all of The Good Wife or In Treatment series' from start to finish. So my choices are to either do them alone (which often isn't much fun) or find something else that we can do together.
I don't want this to feel like a 'woe is me' post, because I have some truly amazing friendships - I have close friends who live near enough for me to see them in the evenings and I have friends I can visit for weekends away. Seeing my parents is always so special because we don't get to do it as often as we would like. And I guess in some way it's making me better at doing things on my own and being more independent because I have to do this rather than miss out.
I do sometimes feel wistful about having a large group of friends like I have done in the past when I lived in Southampton. I used to love a good girl's night in - cocktails, a good movie, snacks and pajamas. These days on the odd occasion that I do have a girl's night in it is usually just myself and one other friend, ignoring the movie and having a good catchup! And that's just fine by me. So when I came across the article on hosting the perfect Girls' Night In by Home Wet Bar, although I got excited at the thought of yummy cocktails, cheesecake and themed parties, I must admit that my thoughts did initially wander to the fact that it would probably only be me and one other person destroying that cheesecake (which isn't so bad....)
|sarah knows how to host a girls' night in|