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My new year's resolution this year was to be more present.  By this I mean not only enjoying the moment and investing my energy and thought into where I am at that time, but also not letting my mind wander onto things that have happened in the past, or might happen in the future.  I am a notorious worrier and my mind is often occupied by thinking about things I've said or done in the weeks, months or even years prior, or worrying about possible eventualities.  I think ahead generally - I like plans and organisation and my Filofax is a neat chaos of highlighted categorisation (different colours for work appointments, social engagements, blog commitments and so on).  I infuriate Tom by asking him if he might want to do something weeks in advance (often just as he's falling asleep, when my mind is buzzing with plans and arrangements).

Despite this tendency to think, and plan, ahead, I had almost no ideas of what our wedding might look like when we got engaged.  I didn't think about what it might be like to be engaged, or what planning a wedding might involve.  When Tom proposed on 16 October we were both over the moon and excited but for me, it felt surreal almost.  Looking at venues and reading wedding magazines felt like research for a friend rather than something that was happening to me.  When we talked about plans it almost felt a little silly - I wanted to giggle at the unrealness of it all - "We're getting married!" Crazy.

It's fair to say as well that neither of us knew/know the first thing about weddings.  Which is to be expected I suppose since neither of us have ever been married before! (To give you an idea of just how clueless I am, I didn't know up until a few months ago that you get a wedding ring too, I thought everyone just had their engagement ring).  I have never dreamt of a white wedding or had any preconceptions of what my wedding might look like.  So wedding planning has been a slow process, but also quite fun as we have no 'done deals' or 'musts' - only ideas for things we'd like to be involved in our special day.

Given that we both work in a maritime/coastal based job, met on a sailing boat and live by the sea, I think everyone assumed that we would have a nautical themed wedding (our house is largely nautical in décor too, so I guess this makes sense).  We've decided though to just have lots of ideas, things we love and little touches throughout our day, rather than be tied to one theme.  I like mismatched, rustic, higgledy piggledy, fun décor (that's probably more a theme of our house actually) and I'm sure our wedding will be the same. I guess 'rustic' is a good word because, because of our budget there will be a lot of DIY touches and not all of the things you'd traditionally find at a wedding.  (Although these days I think it's difficult to have an original idea, and rustic, DIY weddings seem to be the rule rather than the exception!)

Of course one tradition I have upheld is creating a Pinterest board.  Because I want to keep some details and ideas private, I've made a private board and given access to a few of the key people involved in wedding planning! It's been so much fun seeing their ideas and finding wonderful, beautiful things that have been a part of other people's weddings.  There really is so much inspiration out there.

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We've got a savings plan together (as I write this I've just dropped my car off at the garage which is threatening to seriously thwart this month's contribution) and had some generous contributions from both of our parents which is lovely and really given us a step towards making the things we'd love to happen, happen.  We've worked out that we should be able to save enough by April 2015 and have a date in mind we're just waiting to book with our chosen venue and the photographer.  I am stunned by how wildly expensive everything is - we are going 'budget' on almost everything but it is still what I would deem as a fairly large figure, and I can't see how we'll be able to afford to have a honeymoon.

Despite the lack of real wedding planning going on, one of the first questions on my female friends' lips at the moment seems to be 'what do you think you'll do for a hen do?'  My friends seem to be scattered all over the place at the moment so I love the idea of getting everyone together for a weekend away and a bit of relaxation and pampering! I am not (as you can imagine) into the idea of L Plates and dressing up! I am definitely not in the minority though as I read recently via a survey that Spabreaks did that over 50% of women like the idea of a relaxing hen party (only 9% fancy a wild weekend in Magaluf, which is lucky as that would not be my choice either!) I love the idea of getting a cottage somewhere like Bath and having a spa day as well as dinner and cocktails.  What would your perfect hen party be?

I really should stop dreaming of cottages, log fires and cocktails though and get on with the actual wedding planning! We have 16 months though so I'm not panicking yet!

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18 comments

  1. I'm getting married in September 2015 and it seems like it's a day dream. But then I think that it's only a year and 10 months away and we don't have much savings really freaks me out!

    Memichaelandme.blogspot.co.uk

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  2. I can relate to a lot of this. I'm getting married in Aug next yr, it took months for the proposal to sink in and I had never really thought about what I'd like my (our) wedding to be like. The expense of wedding related stuff is insane! As its less than 9 months to ours, our saving plan is well in place. As for the hen do, I'm leaving my three bridesmaids in charge - I think they know me pretty well so I'm not worried :) enjoy the planning, I've loved it. Pinterest is bloody ace for inspiration x

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  3. Such a lovely post Rosie! I'm really excited to see your plans take shape.

    Franky xxx

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  4. Owww it must be so exciting for you!!!
    Love your pinterest Wedding Board! :) xxx

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  5. I'm going to risk being shot down here but I absolutely can't stand hen dos. Definitely a weekend in the countryside over a drunken night out any day.
    And, just think, Sarah and I have already got our b'maid dresses sorted for you, so that's a weight off your mind :P

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  6. I got engaged ONE WEEK ago and I'm already wanting to book everything now with my very empty money box!! You seem calm, Rosie, clearly I'm more of a nightmare than I thought I would be!! Very excited to see your pinterest too :) I'm currently looking at making one to try and pin my ideas down xx

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  7. Going to cry for the rest of my life about missing this wedding! You know how much I love planning so if you need any assistance at all ;) xo

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  8. Got engaged in April 2008, married April 2009. It didn't seemed rushed and it all came together pretty smoothly. Sadly we lost my mum 6 weeks prior to the wedding which was distressing but I guess our wedding gave me something to focus on & I know she was no doubt looking down on us. Enjoy your preparations, you'll make a beautiful bride x And I'm sure your hens will look after you!!!

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  9. Ahhh this is SO EXCITING! I can't wait to see more of your wedding plans Miss Rosie! I think a mis-matched/ homemade/ DIY wedding is so much more personal and lovely (regardless of whether it's cheaper!) I know someone who made every bit of their wedding- this may give you some ideas? http://www.boho-weddings.com/2012/08/10/helen-and-martins-homemade-wedding-and-the-bride-made-her-own-dress/

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  10. I think you've made a great start since you have 16 months to go. It's all very exciting though, wishing you the best definitely! x

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  11. Lol, hen party. Never herd it call that before.

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  12. Going to cry for the rest of my life about missing this wedding! You know how much I love planning so if you need any assistance at all ;) xo
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  13. Love your blog,it is so rosyyy :) <3
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  14. I'm not even in a relationship, but the topic of a hen party was brought up recently and had me thinking. I have a mixed sex group of friends but stag and hen do's are very 'female' or 'male' - I'm yet to personally witness a hen or stag party which has mixed sex attendance. I like the idea of celebrating last night of freedom etc but I can't imagine doing it with just my female friends, I'd really feel like I'd have to have my male friends present also. I'd probably just end up at the local haha. xx

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  15. Get over here to Bath! Stay in town, get over to one of the many bars who do 'cocktails and cupcake classes' and then go somewhere lovely for dinner. The next day, head to the Thermae Spa for rooftop relaxation! (I bloody love this city)

    Rosie x | Every Word Handwritten

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  16. This is such an exciting time...enjoy every minute as those decision making pressures will soon be upon you. This time last year we were saving every penny for our big day...it was defiantly all worth it!

    Katie x
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  17. I imagine that your Wedding is going to be so pretty.
    We went for an 'anything goes' theme and were both really happy with how nicely it all came together, everyone said that the day was really 'us' which was exactly what we had hoped to achieve. x

    Leanne - A Slice of My Life

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  18. for me and my husband, it was little things that made it the best. My hen do was a night in vintage dresses and having a laugh and a relaxing spa day. The little things like, wild flowers in restored milk churns at the church, sheep shaped confetti. Personalised confetti from ebay.
    We had post card invites from vista print.

    don't stress or reach for others expectations do what makes you both happy :)

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