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Honest to blog | Crisis of confidence

The first time I remember the thrill of buying new clothes was when I got my first job at the age of 15.  Having just discovered alternative music I would save my wages to get the bus into Southampton and buy wide legged flares, zip hoodies, skate shoes and plastic jewellery.  At 16 I went to a college with a big art and music department and met other people who dressed like me and we'd share clothes and shop together, expressing our personalities via the bands emblazoned across our hoodies (and competing for who had the widest legged trousers - and by the way this was 11 years ago, it was cool).  I knew then that I loved buying clothes and having fun with fashion but when I got older and didn't have 'alternative subculture' to define the way I dressed I sort of lost my way.

For the last few years I've fallen into habits with clothes, and fashion for me became finding ways to hide the parts of my body I didn't like.  As a result I have a wardrobe full of similar items; dresses nipped in at the waist with a skater style skirt were my comfort blanket, worn with a cardigan, tights and flats.  When I discovered blogging it made me question everything again - there are so many bloggers I feel inspired by, but those that do inspire me are often those with their own signature style, who can pull an amazing outfit together because they know the shapes, fabrics, patterns and outlines that suit them.  I could find endless inspiration, but I couldn't find myself.

These last few weeks I thought I'd found it.  I almost found myself regressing back to those college years - "I'm a trousers and tops person" I told myself.  I furiously pulled the majority of my dresses out of my wardrobe and bundled them into a chest.  I smugly went out on nights out and wore wet look leggings and peplums whilst my friends braved the cold in dresses and bare legs.  "I'm just a casual person," I told myself. I seeked comfort in jeans, t-shirts and jumpers and bought cosy hoodies.  "I like street style," I told myself, and dug out my old Nike Air Force One trainers.  I ditched the high waisted skirts I used to wear to work in favour of trousers and t-shirts and the heels made way for brogues and ballet flats.  I developed an aversion for tights.

Of course another epiphany arrived as quickly as the first.  At least now I could be honest with myself.  I'd lost my way completely.  I'd gone from 'the girl who always wears dresses' to 'the girl who always wears trousers'.  I was even more lost than before.  That was a few days ago.  I'm no closer to answering the question of 'What is my personal style?' or 'What does Rosie dress like?' I took some outfit photos last night and I deleted them as soon as I saw them, they just weren't 'me' (not to mention I looked terrible!)

When I woke up this morning I wanted to 'dress up' and feel good about myself again.  I wanted to be able to walk around work with my head held high.  I want to be able to post outfit posts I can be proud of and not have a meltdown at the thought of attending a blogger event.  Here is my first try.  And you know what? It felt so good to put a dress on, and even better to put heels on.

Outfit post
dress: all saints [old] // snood: asos [£15]
boots: new look* [£29.99]
Outfit post

I was recently sent a £30 New Look gift card and I bought these shearling lined shoe boots.  My originally thought was that they would go well with all the jeans I'd been wearing, but they look pretty good with a dress too right? ...*Opens up the chest*....

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40 comments

  1. I think you look gorgeous here hun! I feel a bit like yourself now and again, I love the thought of wearing a dress or a long jumper because they make me feel comfortable. Then I think, 'well, i'm more of a jeans kinda girl' and revert back to pants and a top. It's annoying when I over think things.

    I think you'd look brill in anything, hun, you're gorgeous :)

    Laura xoxo
    http://pale-girl-reviews.blogspot.com

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  2. I've been feeling the same recently, I know what clothes I 'like' but don't feel I have a particular style. I tried to explain it to my boyfriend but he didn't get it and then I felt like a ninny so I'm glad I'm not the only one! If it helps you look absolutely lovely in this outfit :-) xx

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  3. You are looking so trim and lovely missy. I'm sure I don't have a particular style and get in a really bad tshirt and jeans rut a lot. Always feel loads better when I actually make an effort xx

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  4. Ahhh I love this post, and can completely relate. I've totally pigeon-holed myself too. I used to thrive on baggy jeans, flares and the obligatory chain looped at my waist. Now I rarely wear trousers at all. With me it's laziness. I don't have to think about a dress, cardi and flats. One of my new year resolutions is to change that and explore fashion more. That said, don't ditch those wet-look leggings! they look AMAZING on you! And by the way, well done on the diet and exercise front lady - you're looking HOT! xxx

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  5. HOT STUFF.
    you should def wear dresses more often!xxo

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  6. Rosie you look amazing in these photos, you have such a lovely figure! I can sympathise with you on 'personal style' - from the age of 13 I've dressed as a skater, a punk, a goth, a grunger, a surfer girl...I've gone from tight bodycon dresses and really high heels to dungarees and converse and back again...some days I feel like the kind of girl who stomps around in her DMs and other days I feel like I want to be classic and stylish and feminine...it's so hard! I think the main thing is dressing to suit your figure, wearing well-cut well-made clothes and wearing things that feel comfortable with your personality - if that's ever possible! x

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  7. You look lovely! I can totally emphasise - I was also a grungy baggy jeaned teenager, who turned into a grungy student. Then when I got a proper job I really struggled finding a style I liked!

    It's taken me years but I think I'm finally there - dresses, cardigans & stompy boots are my go-to, and I almost don't recognise myself in photos from my unsure phase! x

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  8. You always look gorgeous! I go through the odd style crisis but now I think I'm happiest just opening my wardrobe & picking whatever suits me that way - my friends would probably describe my style politely as 'eclectic' but it's probably more totally random, but I'm happy :)

    x

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  9. Gorgeous outfit! Your boots look amazing with that dress! xxx

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  10. I think finding your style is part of growing up and getting older. Its good that you are able to find it again for yourself. S xx

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  11. You look bloody stunning! Classic old thing to say but I say where whatever suits you depending on day/year/mood/reason! Who cares if that means you go through periods of just trousers or just dresses. I say just go with your own flow! xxx

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  12. Oh Rosie, you are a babe! Love love your snood and boots, the colour is perfect. I, too, have been through countless phases with finding my own style. Throughout school, I was obsessed with trying to fit in and not to draw too much attention to myself; in college, it was an experimental stage, and now from Uni to now, I finally feel like I've settled into an eclectic wardrobe of pieces that I love to wear, despite them not fitting into any category at all! xxxx

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  13. Gorgeous outfit - love the shoe boots and dress :) you look stunning!

    I'm having a bit of a love/hate relationship with my wardrobe at the moment, also feeling majorly body conscious recently as well...I seem to go through these phases every now and again - I think a lot of people do! xx

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  14. Rosie you are looking fantastic! Wear whatever suits you and whatever makes you feel comfortable. You can pull off a hell of a lot of different stuff so just go with it!
    I must say though, you are looking great - skinny minnie! Hope you don't mind me saying :) xx

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  15. You look really lovely Rosie. The blue colour looks amazing next to your amazing hair! X

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  16. You look flippin' gorgeous! I always feel way better with a pair of heels on and in a cute little dress like yours! Although, I can't really walk in heels for too long haha :) I definitely don't have a 'style' - I kind of just buy / wear things I like / feel comfortable in on the day!

    Robyn Mayday
    xx

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  17. I think we feel the pressure with blogging.. I'm the same as you, I own wayyyy to many dresses that go in at the waist with a skater skirt. because I know it looks right on. and i like them. But lately I've found myself looking at more casual outfits (because in the day I dress up so when it comes to night time, i really struggle to feel dressed up) but then I don't want to get in a casual rut either.
    I say you wear whatever makes you feel good.. and this dress looks fab on you Rosie! xxx

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  18. I completely relate to how you feel, I'm still in my teens and there is definitely a constant pressure to look a certain way, buy certain things, etc. But you know what? Dressing how you feel and how you want is so important, and absolutely a confidence booster. By the way, you look fabulous in those pictures, I adore the dress and the boots, I'm glad it made you feel much happier! Xxx

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  19. I feel COMPLETELY the same. I never feel like I have a certain style and I swap and change so much. But then sometimes that's not a bad thing and I'm not worried to try out a new style.

    You really suit that dress and those heels go really well with the outfit!

    I used to have massive flares as well. They were purple cords- über cool!! ;) x

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  20. I honestly have no idea what my style is apart from I don't like wearing jeans that much.. but then I'd wear jeans sometimes and enjoy it and think "why don't I wear jeans more often?" then don't wear them for months...
    anyway, you look great, the hat and shoes really make the outfit

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  21. I think you look super cute here and totally comfortable in yourself.
    I still don't think I've found my style and am constantly trying to hide parts of my body. I don't think I'll ever have a great relationship with myself and the way I look but blogging has helped me get out of the rut of dressing in dress/dressing in trousers all the time (went through the exact same thing recently.)

    Glad you're feeling better xx

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  22. Great post! I've been really enjoying trying new combinations with my wardrobe lately, but it has got me questioning what my style is. I think back to the body-con skirts that were all the rage 2 years ago in the blogging world and just don't think I'd have the confidence to wear them now...is this because fashion has changed or because I have? Anyway, love this outfit - even if just looking at you outside with no sleeves is making me cold! x

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  23. I am SO glad you're feeling more comfortable with your style, you look AMAZING here (as you always do) and girl, you can rock a dress. I went through a parachute trousers-fishnet arms-and kawaii clips in back combed hair phase, timberland and tracksuit phase, and yellow skinnies and high tops phase before I realised my -kind of signature- style but hey, I still dress like a potato 98% of the week, and that's fine because i feel comfortable! As long as you feel happy the rest will come (plus, i'm sure you could rock a bin bag with those boots!) xxx

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  24. I love the way you write! I think its great to take an outfit post and go 'yeah i like myself in this, i feel that what i am wearing is me.' Sometimes i end up dressing in an outfit i wouldnt usually wear just to avoid wearing similar outfits in a row. But i think you need to dress in whatever you want. I think you look great in trousers and dresses, and love that you are feeling good when putting a dress on again :) xx

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  25. Firstly, you look bloody amazing here!

    Secondly, I think signature style evolves as you do so I wouldn't worry! I'm 27 and while my day-to-day style is quite androgynous I go all-out girly when it comes to going out (but always with a 60s/rock vibe thrown in there!).

    At the end of the day, if it makes you feel comfortable and confident - WEAR IT! Even if that means you dress in PJs 99% of the time, like me ;D

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  27. I say don't overthink it! If you feel like wearing one thing one day and something totally different the next, it doesn't matter. In fact, I think that's what style really is- being able to wear whatever the hell you want!

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  28. I don't really have a personal style either, at least I don't think I do.

    I have a LOT of dresses which I wear with tights or leggings (never bare legs!) or skinny jeans with a jumper or tee. Pretty bog standard but I usually feel comfortable and think I look okay.

    I read fashion blogs and wish I could be a bit more "put together" but to be honest I'd rather spend my time and money doing something a bit more important! (no offence anybody...)

    You always look great to me. Very down to earth and that's why your blog is one of my favourites!

    x

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  29. You look gorgeous here, you can tell this outfit is so you!

    Jo xx
    http://paintedglitter.blogspot.co.uk/

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  30. Is that the All Saints item I bought you ages ago? You always look lovely Rosie! xx

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  31. You look amazing! I think actually most people probably don't have a clearly defined style and I kind of like that. Myself I just wear whatever I like which could be a pair of jeans and a hoody to a gorgeous dress and heels.

    http://rafflesbizarre.blogspot.co.uk

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  32. Rosie I think you look gorgeous! I love the bowler hat with your hair and the dress and boots combo:) We all go through so many changes in what we feel we 'should wear' and what we want to wear. If it makes you feel good then you go for it :) Having style is having confidence in what you wear!

    PS...I only just found your blog and I love! :) xxx

    www.stylebycharityrose.blogspot.com

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  33. Rosie you look so slim!!! You can SO tell you've been doing all that exercise! I think this outfit looks amazing. I think dresses really do suit you x

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  34. great outfit, love the snood and hat and you look gorgeous <3

    http://amelodyofdiaries.blogspot.co.uk/

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  35. that is really great that you got it all out! many of us felt the same. you're an inspiration!

    xx
    The Young Bridget Jones
    Katrina Sophia Art

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  36. What an interesting post. I think about 'my style' every time I open my closet. It's really hard to find a style that perfectly describes you especially if you are a person -like me- whose easily influenced by others. Every time I see something I like in someones outfit, I try to adopt it in 'my style'. Still, I don't think we should worry that much about this topic x'D

    allthatglittersnotgold.blogspot.com

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  37. Oh Rosie. *MASSIVE HUG*

    I have this all the time. I think I'm getting somewhere with finding clothing that suits me, then I try and take pictures, and realise said outfit makes me look hideous/short/fat/insert adjective of choice. Sometimes I think you're right, it's about embracing all the things you love- dresses and jeans, jumpers and blouses, and who cares if one has a 'style' or a 'look' I think I'd rather wear different things to suit my mood/occasion/changing shape, than have to find a whole new 'look' every time I gain or lose a kilo, or go somewhere that has a slightly different dress code or requirement.

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  38. Love the look. And you do look so comfy and not awkward at all. It's like we are totally in the same place right now! I love it, and those booties.

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  39. I totally feel you on this one. I have had many MANY such dilemmas, I constantly question what my 'style is'.

    Lately I've just decided to be comfortable with the fact that I can't really stick to one 'style' and I'm happy to mix it up. This might be kinda confusing for people who see me regularly, but hey, it makes life easier.

    That outfit definitely suits you, it's lovely and I really like the New Look boots!

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