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Almost a month ago I wrote a blog post called 'My three new life rules', which were;

1. Give other people, and myself, a break more often.
2. Buy less clothes, but when I do, buy better quality clothes.
3. Eat better.

I'm pleased to say that I am still working really hard at these.  The difference to my life that number two has made already is significant; last month I bought a pair of trousers, a cardigan and a skirt from Anthropologie (admittedly they were in the sale), and instead of splurging in Primark, H&M and other online retailers on top of that I just enjoyed having three new, quality items of clothing and thought about how and where to wear them rather than letting them disappear into the recesses of my wardrobe. Admittedly I still picked up a couple of other bits throughout the month but I made sure I really thought about the opportunities I'd have to wear them and how many times I could do that before they fell apart.  Something Sammy said in her comment on the post has turned into something I now live by when shopping - when you pick up an item in Primark and it's a bargain because it's only, say £10 - would you buy it if it was £30? Or £50? If not, why buy it? Buying things just because they're cheap is never a good reason to buy something!  Becky at Life Style Flash summed it up much better than I ever could - 'Buy less, buy better'.  And whilst I'm using that phrase, how about number 3 turns into 'Eat less, eat better' - simplest and most successful diet out there!

Number 1 has been hardest I must admit.  When you're in the heat of an argument, or something happens that winds you up it is so difficult to snap out of how you feel at that time and tell yourself that it won't matter in a week's time, or that the person winding you up is only human and hasn't done it intentionally to make you angry.  I am vowing to do better at this because I know it will make a real difference to my life, but I also know it will take time, and work.

What I wanted to write about today however, was your life rules or wise words - the things you do to live a happy life.  I was overwhelmed by the thought and wisdom that you put into your comments on my post.  I absolutely loved finding out the mantras that other people live by and trying to use them to make my life better too.  I hope you'll enjoy reading them as much as I did.  Here are a few select excerpts...


"Someone to love, something to do, something to look forward to - I find that the times when I am stressed or grumpy is when one of those is out of place" - Skin and Blister


"Money doesn't make you happy. I was happy to be paid half the amount I earned in my teaching job to work for a charity whose ethics and objectives I LOVE!" - Sunny Sweet Pea


"Personally, I really try to be thankful and appreciative of the people around me, acknowledging their contributions in my life. Sometimes I think we can forget to do this and assume that people know that we love and appreciate them." - Amy Elizabeth 


"I think we spend a lot of time reflecting negatively on things or situations, and that we should try and look on the bright side more. " - Farewell to the Fairground


"Although it is brilliant to be driven and to have goals it is also important to reflect, to stop and smell the roses and to appreciate the wonderful people and things already surrounding us already!" - Beautiful Clutter


"My three life rules - 
1. Treat others as you'd like to be treated.  
2. Come to the table with a solution, not a problem.  
3. Manners cost nothing." - Chloe Likes to Talk

"Have fun.  And don't sweat the small stuff." - Mini Adventures


"Make your own rules, be yourself and always be thankful for those in your life." - emma kathleen


"Nothing will work unless you do" - Ever So Juliet


"My three life rules - 
1. Remembering to think "Will this matter a year from now?"
2. Do as you would be done by. 
3. The quality remains long after the price is forgotten." - Oh So Vintage


"One 'rule' I've found helpful is 'Don't let the perfect be the enemy of the good'. In the past I've found it very easy to give up on things, or not try things to begin with, as I knew they wouldn't be perfect, but as Gretchen Rubin of the Happiness Project says, "it’s better to get something done imperfectly than to do nothing perfectly." So now I just have a go and enjoy the process! - The Gingerbread


"You can only try and be the best version of yourself 'Lucy' (or Cath, or Brian) that you can be.  To me it means not to measure myself against others (their clothes, their relationships, their completed to-do lists) but against what I have done for myself." - Offally Good


"The rule I'm trying to live by is this: 'Life is too short to be anything but happy.'  Just do what makes you smile and remember that the best things in life are usually free!" - The Life Wardrobe


Thank you so much to those who commented.  I'd like to find a way to make this a regular feature if people are interested in reading posts like this?


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22 comments

  1. This is truly lovely! At the moment, I'm finding it hard to 'find' myself. I'm young, in a new but very scary job, and find it hard to be confident in my own skin!
    These words have been really inspiring to read. Made me think it's time to get some confidence - life is too short to be self conscious, to think about mistakes you've made and to not be yourself.
    x x x

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  2. What a great post! Glad to hear you're doing well on your aims! Sometimes, even just by recognizing these things, it helps you to be more conscientious of when they are happening or prevent the level of impact on your life. Sometimes it's hard to avoid things and sometimes no level of renationalisation will help but knowing really is half the battle! xxx

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  3. This is a lovely post. It's so easy to dwell on a negative situation. I try to remember that no feeling lasts forever, I might feel this way right now but it will pass. Life is ever changing, we never constantly feel the same way. Keep moving forward and focus on what's really important. :) xx

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  4. Ah Rosie, you often make so much sense to me it is scary - here you are doing it again, on both the material front and the emotional one!

    Jem xXx

    P.S - Loved reading other people's thoughts too!

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  5. Really lovely post, has given me lots of positive things to think about. Would be a great post to have regularly too, we all need some good positive mantras sometimes :)

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  6. Really nice post! I'm feeling quite inspired now, thankyou Rosie :)

    Rebecca x

    If you could check out my blog that would be amazing, just got properly started up! Thank you :)
    thestylevotary.blogspot.com

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  7. hey Rosie, this is such a great post. I try to set myself resolutions every year and find that they give me a lot of direction. To be honest I like the way they last a year and it's not a 'rest of my life' kind of commitment. I'm kind of an all-or-nothing kind of person.

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  8. This post has cheered me up - you're right - I should let go of anger, that's one of my worst habits, just going on and on during a argument and then wonder why they don't talk to me haha, thank you for this!xo

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  9. I once read a brilliant view on life:
    1. Free your heart from hatred.
    2. Free your mind from worries.
    3. Live simply.
    4. Give more.
    5. Expect less.

    at the moment i'm trying to live guilt free, I put alot of pressure on myself to do well. This comes down to grades, money, tidyness and all sorts. I always feel bad cause i've "spent too much" or "not cleaned enough" and it just isnt worth it- so like you- i'm working on giving myself a break :)

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  10. So glad things are working out well for you! And thanks for publishing my comment! At the moment I'm having a lot of ups and downs through my unemployment, I'm trying to live by my rules and not get too hung up on rejections, and do things that make me happy in my downtime. I've also made a promise to myself for the last 2 weeks that I'd eat better and exercise more - I've found it's making me a lot more cheerful and positive about things :) x

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  11. Fantastic fantastic post, lots to think about there and quite inspiring. :)

    http://www.rafflesbizarre.blogspot.com

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  12. This is a brilliant post, really inspiring and life affirming. Recently I've struggled through a period of 'darkness' after being ill, and all of these mantras are just what I need to help that tide turn :) amazing post, thankyou!!

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  13. This is such a wonderful post, truly inspirational and why your blog is one of my all time favourite reads! I think it's such a good idea to have these little rules, it must be really satisfying to see yourself following them and making yourself a little happier in the process! xo

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  14. I love this post! that last quote almost had me in tears, even though I'm in a happy place right now at one time I wasnt and that quote reminded me that things get better. I think without some sadness in life we'd never appreciate the good! xx

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  15. This is a lovely post. You've said a lot of inspirational and positive things, which all of us need to hear sometimes :)
    - Rhiannon
    laviedelamourx.blogspot.com

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  16. What a great post, it's put me in a good mood for the rest of today!

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  17. From my perspective a lot of the above mentioned life rules and mantras start to come to you naturally as you get older. For example, the most important thing as a teenager is often how you look and the latest hair/fashion/beauty etc While these are still important to me and I enjoy them, they are put into perspective as you age and grow as a person, and you realise there are more important things to work on, such as happiness and solid relationships.
    If ever I feel a bit sorry for myself I remember what my Dad used to say " There's always someone worse off than yourself" simple but true. :D xx

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  18. Hiyaaa, I've just found your blog via Where are my Knees so I thought I'd say hello! Since I read the post introducing yourself and popped on over I've just somehow lost about 45 mins of my life having a lovely browse through your posts (and enjoyed this one in particular!) I don't often find blogs that hook me instantly so I look forward to seeing you popping up in my blog feed :) Cx

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  19. The life rules gave me such a tingly feeling and gave me a huge boost to silly little problems I am having at the moment. I am such a worry wart and even break out into huge spots on my hands. I don't get these kind of spots anywhere else on my body so I know for a fact these are worry spots! Ben has always told me about why I worry so much... he says is worrying going to cure anything at all? If you can conquer this problem then do it, if you can't then just let it go. Just don't worry about it! And I have always tried to think of this whenever a niggling thought comes up.
    I am super pleased about your clothing buys, hun :) Keep up the nicey nice quality purchasing xox

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  20. I totally agree with your three little rules! I'm so terrible for buying something because it's cheap, when I know deep down that in the end I'll probably end up buying loads of things to replace that cheap item (which are also cheap) when in the first place I could just have spent that little bit extra and have things last. I hope they all work out for you, stick at it!! xx

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  21. Hi Rosie,

    What a lovely post. I for one would definitely like to see it as a regular feature - such a refreshing read. It was also lovely to come back and mull over a quote that I had put in the comments box and see it in your post!

    I look forward to seeing more x

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  22. A lovely post - as far as clothes goes, I go by the 'one in, one out' policy and make sure I always donate something to charity, recycle it or take it to a clothes swap. Glad to hear living by your rules is going ok.

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