You probably will have seen from my last two posts that I spent several days in Cornwall last week, and that they were mostly spent sat indoors with my lovely friend Lindsey
The first thing is something that I've been thinking for a while. A rhetorical question - think back to relationships you've had that have broken up or people in your life who you have loved and lost. Of the arguments you had with them, or the times when things have not been so good because you've been clinging onto bad feelings or holding grudges, how much of that really mattered? How many of them would you go back and have over again and how many would you drop because you just wanted to enjoy your time together? I'll bet a lot. The people who you have around you now, will not be there forever. I think we all spend too much time having petty arguments or getting worked up about little things that don't matter, and so my pledge is to give people a break more. People are (usually) not wilfully annoying, frustrating, stupid or mean, and everyone makes mistakes. The best thing we can do for ourselves (and for other people) is to know when to give people a break. This counts for me too - I fully intend to not be so hard on myself and give myself a break every now and then. In every situation where I find myself getting worked up about something I'm going to ask myself 'will this really matter tomorrow, or in a week, or a month?' I am in control of what I let get to me and what I just smile and let go. And I intend to do the latter a lot more.
I am well known for being a bit of a clothes shopping addict. Come payday you can usually find me gleefully ordering new clothes, and it's almost become shameful when the post trolley comes round the corner at work a few days later weighed down by packages with my name on it, with the postman making a beeline for me and shaking his head. When I was 16 I worked in Budgens and earned a tenth of what I earn now. I used to save up my wages and go to the 'Moist' clothes shop in Southampton and buy myself a pair of baggy jeans or a zip up hoodie every month. And I wore them to death, every day having the excitement of putting on my new favourite item of clothing and knowing it was hanging in my wardrobe, nestling amongst other things I loved. I used to buy £50 jeans and £40 hoodies and feel really special in them. Now, I'll blow that in Primark on ten things that sit in my drawer and never get worn. They fall apart after the fourth or fifth wear or hang forgotten in my wardrobe. They don't make me happy or fill me with excitement. I own lots of lovely things but they're at the bottom of drawers because I can never find them.
In addition, I recently read this article on a blog - 'Happiness is simple, why too many choices makes us miserable.' It was such an interesting article and basically explains that having too much choice in our life makes us feel anxious that we'll make the wrong one and causes angst and stress. It explains that the happiest people in life are those who make choices and are content with things that are 'good enough' whereas people striving for 'the best' suffer stress from constant regret and disappointment. Lately I've realised that the amount of clothes and shoes I own often makes me feel stressed. The ironing pile is so huge that the things I want are never cleaned and ironed, new things I buy are swallowed in my enormous wardrobes and I'm constantly searching for that new thing that will bring an outfit together, neglecting the hundreds of clothes I already own. This pledge is to get rid of a lot of old, unworn clothes, and also to buy for quantity not quality. I want to rekindle that love I had for that special item of clothing when I was 15 by buying one or two really special things each month rather than 20 things that I'll have forgotten about in a few days.
Do you remember those cringe-y phrases your parents used to say over and over again when you younger until every time they'd go to say it you'd repeat it back to them in their voice? Well this was my Dad's. "Your body is like a car Rosie, what you put in is what you get out. If you put rubbish in, you'll feel rubbish." I've been getting tummy aches and headaches recently, and being on holiday with my friend, who has wheatgrass shots, eats tons of fruit and veg and buries herself in books about nutrition, made me realise I don't care enough about what I put in my body. Along with this, now we live more in the countryside I want to make better use of all the resources around us and eat more organic food from local farmers. I ordered an Abel and Cole box on Sunday and I'm so excited about eating loads more veggies, trying to introduce more fruit into my diet and eating more home cooked hearty meals.
I hope you've enjoyed reading my three aims for the coming months. I feel like a bit of a hippy sometimes but I think it's important to constantly strive to make yourself better and keep yourself happy and healthy. But this isn't all about me - now it's...