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De Brevitate Vitae

At the weekend a 'friend' of mine wrote on Facebook that it summed up 90% of her Facebook friends that everyone was discussing Amy Winehouse and no-one was talking about the attacks in Norway.  She said that there is nothing more 'real than Facebook', and if people weren't talking about it, they weren't upset by it.

This really made me think about the way we interact with social media.  Personally I use Facebook very little, and if I do it's only to talk to friends I can't contact via another medium.  I find the idea that Facebook could directly reflect what I'm thinking about or what I'm feeling pretty absurd.  In fact, I would find it kind of distasteful if that was how people were choosing to express how tragic and deeply, deeply sad the attacks in Norway are.  Because there really aren't any words to describe it, and to try and do so on Facebook (moreso the implication that if you don't, you don't care about it) just doesn't fit for me.  For me, Facebook is the realm of LOLs, and likes - of trite superficiality. But what about blogging? Are there things you do, and don't say on your blog? Things you would, and wouldn't say because it doesn't feel right?

Personally I like to think of my blog as a positive place - a place for documenting things I've seen, or places I've been.  Things that make me happy (often adventures, and food!).  But I sometimes struggle with what to share, partly because of my readership, and partly because I don't want this to be a place for moans or negativity.

I wasn't going to write about it on here (because it didn't seem like something one would blog about) but on Monday I was a few cars behind a car crash on my journey home from work.  The traffic suddenly came to an immediate halt, and after a period of silence the cars in front of me started doing U-turns and eventually the Police came and closed the road (I didn't see the actual crash, just a car off the road).  I learnt in the news the next day that the 35-year-old male driver, died.  After the initial 'Sliding Doors' type thoughts (what if I'd left work a few minutes later, etc), it made me think of the tragedy of it all - a man on his way home from work who would never see his family again, and how life is so fragile and unknown.  That thought has stayed with me for a few days.  What would you do if you knew that it was going to be your last journey home? Why haven't you already done it?


In the spirit of 'seizing the day', we are continuing to try and fill our evenings with fun things (not just the weekends!) and so last night we went for another walk in the forest before dinner.  It makes everything better after a difficult day to see the sun shining over the trees and watch horses swishing their tails and bees buzzing around the flowers!  Here are a few snaps.



18 comments

  1. aw, literally fall in love with your blog more and more every post! my little blog's been going through a bit of a superficial phase, but I want to bring it back to just happy posts haha. sorry for the essay of a comment!xxx

    ramz and the flock

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  2. what a gorgeous gorgeous post. I wrote something along the same lines a few days ago on my blog. although possibly more moany!

    i read a book recently called Signs of Life, I wrote about it here - http://www.ithinkijustbloggedmyself.co.uk/2011/06/signs-of-life-by-natalie-taylor.html

    just from the very little i know about you so far from your blog i think you might like it. it's the most wonderfully inspirational book written by the most beautiful lady! (she's my new favourite person). after anyway yeah, it's great.

    wonderful blog by the way!

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  3. Such a true post. I think sometimes it's so easy to forget our own mortality. You just never know what could happen and when. I'm so glad you're safe but so it's so heartbreaking to know that a life has been lost.

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  4. Rosie, another thought provoking post filled with lovely pictures, just to re itterate - I love your blog!
    I am also a facebook shyer awayer, I feel it's been the basis for so many arguments/he said she saids that I can't be bothered to waste my time on it anymore. And have you noticed the only time it ever appears on the news is for something shocking/awfull?
    "prisoner has escaped but still manages to update his status"
    "Facebook bullying forces teen to commit suicide"
    Ok the first one was a little amusing but nothing really productive/important has come out of facebook.
    Little facebook rant over.

    The last picture is awesome! Did you feed it polos? I always used to give horses polos until I was told they don't bode well....

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  5. I love how you are so straight talking and honest, it makes me think a lot about my own life and I can only thank you for that. There is too much devastation in this world, you never know when your time could be up. We shouldn't live with regrets and we should do our best to savour each moment and enjoy it, life is for living and we need to do more of that xxx

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  6. I had the EXACT same thing happen to me years ago. I was driving home from an ex boyfriend's house when I came across a bad accident where a woman died. It was the first time I had to call 911 ever. I was suppose to leave the ex's house earlier, but didn't. I kept thinking what if it was me? It's a bit of a mind fuck, really...

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  7. The snaps of your walk look beautiful. Really gorgeous. A nice way to try and put a positive spin on some tough days.

    This is a poignant post for me, because this evening my mum and I were talking about her Dad. He died aged just 46 of cancer and it is such a reminder that life is short. That he never got to see my mum marry my dad, that he never saw me graduate or that he won't be here to celebrate other things as we all move through life. And for my mum- it is the little things- she'll never hear his voice or be annoyed that he left a dirty mug out.

    As for Facebook, my personal view is that it is social media. For me it's the place I'm least likely to post something I'm upset about or that's affecting me- it's a place for socialising or maybe sharing something occasionaly. My blog I see slightly differently though. Like you, I generally prefer for it to be a positive space for me to share positive things- there's enough negative in the world without me adding to it, but sometimes I feel it's necessary or helpful to others or there's an issue which isn't negative, it's just not positive either- it's deep or philosophical.

    Wonderfully written and insightful as ever.

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  8. Great post. I often think the same thing. Except lately by the time I get home from work I'm so exhausted all I can think of is pyjamas, dinner, and bed :( haha

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  9. Thats a cute post first of all, and I think its definitely something to blog about, because its your blogand you wanted to do it~

    p.s. I adore the horse pictures ;)

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  10. p.s gave you a blog award here xxx

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  11. I love this post! I really think we often forget and take each other for granted, when in reality a life ends in just a second and can happen at any moment! I hate seeing car crashes on the side of the road, let a lone being that close to one! Slightly off topic but last night I was driving home around midnight and a cat ran out in front of me and I had to emergency stop I was literally inches away from hitting in! I was in such a state afterwards I really don't know what I'd of done if I'd of hit the poor thing :(

    L x

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  12. I agree completely. I go on facebook quite a bit, but I never share anything personal or sad, only ever things I find amusing or funny phrases. I think the awful event in Norway was too horrific to articulate, especially on a site like Facebook! xx
    Sirens and Bells

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  13. Stunning pictures, your blog is so lovely! <3

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  14. i love these picturs, they're all gorgeous. i really want to go to the countryside now!

    http://www.woodenheartbeat.blogspot.com/

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  15. Such a beautiful post!

    Ayeisha
    x

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  16. Dorset is so beautiful. That was a deep post to stumble across on a Sunday morning blog binge, but I think it's something that you always need to remember, although I think gentle reminders now and again is all you need, imagine if we all lived always terrified of what might happen. Thanks ! For reminding me and also for a insightful post. :) I hope you embraced your weekend fully ! Molly <3

    www.darwinanddelilah.co.uk

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  17. Beautiful pictures, especially the horse. I don't really spill my life on Facebook anymore - more just Twitter - although I do update. I don't generally have words to say that are poignant so I'm just always joking... or quiet.

    Great post!

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  18. Beautiful post, and beautiful pictures too rosie ♥ I don't have facebook (you know my reasons why) but I could totally picture what you described above. I have been doing a lot of this sort of thinking lately too, and no matter what materialistic things we get caught up in, its good to come back down to earth and realise how bloody lucky we are to be here and how easily this life could be taken away from us. Bit morbid, haha sorry! But that's why I got my tattoo (remember to live) Aaaanyways, great post as usual missy ♥ promise i'm replying to your email soon! xx

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